I am about to get mystical up in here…
Believe it or not Ripley, I don’t like being negative and complainy. Recently however, I have been putting out and experiencing negativity. I don’t mean my general playful jibes (is there such a thing as playful negativity?), you know the ones about how bitter Christmas Eve Mushroom Soup is. I am talking about deep, painful, stagnating negativity.
I am experiencing it especially in relation to where I live vs. where I want to live. What I want vs. what I have (not so much in the material sense).
I have been reading the Unthethered Soul, by Micheal Singer again, trying to regain some perspective. This time around it is a hard read, I can feel my tiredness allowing the words to sometimes wash over vs. penetrate. So my solution is to read small chunks at a time, write down what I am reading and create questions (which I answer), to try and help it penetrate better.
One of the chapters in this book talks about closing your heart, that once you decided what you don’t like (and what you want to cling on to), you start creating situations for your heart to close/open.
So I made a list of all the things I have decided will cause my heart to close, so I can be aware of them, and practice being open again
The Poland Things:
- “I want” Nice Weather
- That means not stinking hot, and not icy cold. No street sludge, no rain. Yeah, I am serious.
- “I don’t want” to see poop in the “pooping range”
- The strait of land outside our settlement
- “I don’t want” any trash in forest, street or pooping range
- “I don’t want to hear” the neighbour’s noise, or smells
- “I like” no mess in the elevator
- i.e. people’s mess
- “I don’t like” people who don’t say thank you, or acknowledge when I assist them
- “I really don’t f-ing want to” meet that lady who always wants to sell me makeup, energy drinks, weight loss meals
- “I can’t find” good ripe (and affordable) avocados, mangoes, papayas, pineapples and spanspek all year round
- “I want” Borewors, Biltong, good South African meats
- Even though I often struggle with the morality I associate with eating meat
- “I like” Nandos, but there is no Nandos here
- “I would like” more familial support from my Fianc茅’s family
- “I don’t like” the issues that come with this additional family
The general things:
- Urgent ASAP work makes me angry/stress me out/makes me feel hopeless
- I hate meetings
- I can’t function if I don’t sleep long enough, always.
- My Fianc茅 should be happy/happier/less stressed/not sighing/ have joy for life/live for every day of the week and not just the weekend
- My dog must be good…WTF
- I hate working in a rushed fashion
- Speaking to my ‘bosses’, certain colleagues, certain family members
- My family always talking about soccer/football ANNOYS me
- I want to be in charge of how my time is spent all the time
- I don’t want to see racist, sexist, homophobic, fat-phobic – any phobic shit
- Jokes at someone elses expense, humour that is cheap and easy
- Adverts on social media – I mean stop trying to sell me ElToro shit!
- Not being the best version of myself, whoever the hell that is, because she doesn’t exist!?
I like how I progressively got angrier as I typed, and I think that shows
Now deep breath in, and hold…
continue holding…
hold…
hold…
hold…
hold.
https://ahsheegrek.com/post/186956845245/the-happiest-heart-is-a-closed-heart-by